Pretending busy dating
The problem is that this search for the perfect person can generate a lot of stress.
Younger generations face immense pressure to find the 'perfect person' that simply didn’t exist in the past when 'good enough' was good enough." -- "I was in a relationship for a few years and I think in the time I was in the relationship all dating communication went exclusively to text.
In the past, people weren’t looking for something boiling; they just needed some water.
Desperate daters are scared that they are going to be dumped. “I know I usually go to Las Vegas with my friends for March Madness but I just want to be with you.” It can be a lot of pressure being the center of someone’s universe, and you start to wonder about key traits – like loyalty and dependability – that can have a big impact on whether you choose to pursue a long term relationship someone. Books have been written on the topic of “settling.” What is settling? And a quick perusal of the e Harmony Advice community shows volumes of thought and debate on the topic. Desperation isn’t pretty, and if you’re the one feeling slightly under pressure it can be hard to know the difference between reasonable pro-activity and sad, demeaning behavior. The first date was terrific and he hasn’t called in four days, so you’re a little bit worried that he isn’t as enthusiastic as you are. The phone rings, it’s him and he says, “What are you doing right now? If you want to be completely honest with the caller you could say, “I don’t accept dinner dates 10 minutes before dinner,” but the kinder, less aggressive way to teach this person that you have too much of a life to be available at the drop of a hat is to say, “I’m busy tonight, but let’s set something up for this weekend.” If you choose to answer this call and say, “Sure, I’m free.